Dear Dita,
What do I do if my boyfriend is broke? How do I make him satisfy the $10,000 ?

Answer: He isn’t your boyfriend if he isn’t spending money on you—he’s a charity case. Exactl what are you gaining from being claimed by a man who isn’t taking you on dates, helping pay your rent, or setting up your business for you? If you are intimate with him, it is a one-sides arrangement where he is reaping all the benefits of having you on his arm and in his bed. This isn’t love. We suggest you start taking up new hobbies where you can hobnob and stay away from the hobos.

Dear Dita,
My boyfriend made a lot of effort in the beginning when he was earning my affections, taking me out to dinners and buying me small gifts but lately he has gotten lazy and only wants to Netflix and Chill. What do I do?

Answer: You have become too predictable. Men love uncertainty. They love gambling, sports, and politics activities where there are high stakes and there are risks involved. Contrary to what they say, they do not want a woman to give them peace. If you give them peace they will “peace out”. Rather, they like it when a woman is not a sure thing. We suggest you spice it up a little by taking up a new hobby where attractive men will be around or cancelling and rescheduling a date every so often. It will keep him on his toes!

Dear Dita,
Now that he has claimed me, I notice my boyfriend insulting my height and weight. I am a model who is paid for how I look! How do I get him to stop? Please don’t tell me to break up with him. He can be so sweet at times.

Answer: Your boyfriend is “Negging” you. This is a common technique advocated by Pick Up Artists (PUA’s). Men will use negging the most with beautiful women. The insults are designed to humble women and lower their self-esteem. Once he has damaged your confidence, you are easier to control and less likely to leave him, as he has convinced you that you are sub par and unworthy of anything better. As a model, you are likely of ideal height and weight, and in high demand--which is why he is sowing self doubt in your mind. It might be worth reassessing this relationship.